I’ve never deemed myself unworthy of an amazing life based on another person’s treatment of me. They don’t put breath in my body, nor do they cause me to wake up every morning. As such, I don’t give them that power.
I’ve learned this lesson over and over again as a young, African-American, female attorney. Over the years, I have found myself in rooms whereby I the only. I am the only millennial. I am the only woman of color. I am the only attorney. I am the only person in the room in my tax bracket. As you can imagine, I’ve had my fair share of praise, glory, and admiration. However, I’ve also had my fair share of mistreatment and disrespect. Some of the mistreatment wasn’t intentional, it was ignorance. However, some of it was outright disrespect and I don’t have a high tolerance for disrespect.
My advice to you is to never judge yourself as unworthy based on how others have treated or are treating you. Tell and teach them how to treat you based upon how you treat yourself. You are ultimately the only person that can deem yourself unworthy of a high-quality life and career.
If you’re grown, then you have had your share of traumas and messy or complicated dilemmas. Still, you also have the freedom to choose how those things will influence and shape the person you become.
I’ve been practicing law for 7 years, and my industry (like many others) comes with its share of complex dilemmas. As a healthcare lawyer, my practice focuses on helping doctors close their business and employment deals. My work sits at the intersection of employment, contract, and healthcare law.
Last week, I presented my first continuing legal education seminar entitled Healthcare Transactions 101: The Provider’s Perspective. As the co-chair of The Georgia Association of Black Women Attorney’s CLE-at-Sea committee, I lead a group of lawyers on a 7-day trip to several Eastern Caribbean territories and countries. Puerto Rico, St. Thomas, St. Kitts, Antiqua, St. Lucia, and Barbados were each a stop on the itinerary. If you want to see how you do under pressure, consider presenting in front of a group of seasoned lawyers and judges who have been practicing at least 10-20 years longer than you. Can you say nervous? But, I did it and received raving reviews and praises from the attorneys that were present. I appreciate every opportunity that I receive to gain the respect, admiration, and referrals of my colleagues. I count it as a privilege, not a chore.
If you are familiar with me personally, professionally, or through my brand Matchless, then you know that I am a proponent of living a full life. I believe that humans are multi-faceted. At our best, we are not just one thing. Sometimes, our jobs and employment positions have a way of snuffing out our magic. I had to learn to put my legal practice in its place in my life. It’s not easy, but I am taking the marathon approach (#MyTaughtYou). Seeing that it took me almost 22 years to become a lawyer, I don’t think that I have any other choice lol.
Lyndosha’s Road to The Law:
- 2 years of pre-k (yes, I counted pre-k….it was school too lol)
- 12 years of grade school
- 4 years of college
- 3 years in law school
- 10 weeks of gruesome and brutal torture studying for the bar
- and 3 months of waiting on my scores acknowledging that all of my work was not in vain and that I passed the test)
Now I am 7 years past all of the work that it took to gain entry into the field, and I often realize that I am just getting started.
No matter where you are or what you want out of life, never give up on yourself. Keep searching for your magic, and once you find it, don’t give it up for anything or anybody…including your job!
All the best,
Lyndosha aka “Dot”